Saturday, June 27, 2009

Brimming with Love

Miles is sleeping on my shoulder right now. His little head resting comfortably in the soft muscle just below my collarbone; his beautiful face turned toward my cheek - close enough to kiss the softness...close enough to smell the sweetness...close enough to hear the miracle as tiny puffs of air escape his lungs. Occasionally he'll stretch - occasionally he'll squeak - occasionally he'll lick his lips - and I am cherishing this moment.

Has it really already been five whole days?

I kind of fibbed my way into the hospital.
Two days! Two and a half full days of steady contractions...coming every 10-15 minutes apart. Contractions that never ceased...that only hinted of pain...that never increased in intensity or frequency...that whispered promises of impending labor but failed, time and time again, to deliver...that kept me awake for 2 full nights watching the clock, recording their spacings in my mind... I was going batty, my friends! Brian's work schedule was becoming complicated, and so - I did it. I let Brian talk me into calling the on-call doctor Sunday night to say whatever it took to get into the hospital - hoping that once we were there, the doctors would keep me and 'help' my labor along. It was actually surprisingly easy.

Me: I think I'm in labor. (the fib)
Dr: Is this your first child?
Me: No, it's my third full-term delivery.
Dr: Oh! Well, then...if you think you're in labor, come on down and join the party! I'll let the nurses know you're coming.

So, instead of flying to the hospital in a frenzy of painful contractions praying to make it in time, Brian took the kids over to a friends house while I moseyed about in my own home packing a hospital bag, and trying to create a mentally positive 'zen' that might induce labor.

After getting to the hospital, the doctor let me labor for 5 hours before coming to the conclusion that I was not progressing. (Really? Oh, gee...I thought I was in labor, Doc...) at this point he gave me three options:
1) "You could go home." To this option, I mustered up the saddest puppy-dog eyes I could and tried to send a clear message to him: 'please don't send me home...'
2) "I could rupture your membranes and see if that gets something started." Yes, yes...I liked the sound of that one.
3) "I could start you on pitocin to really get things started." Umm....well, I've heard a lot of horror stories about pitocin, so..... I choose number 2!!!

So, at 1:00 in the morning, the doctor broke my water, sealing Miles's fate of being born within the next several hours. After he left, I looked at Brian and loved him more than ever - - - he had convinced me to end my own misery by fibbing. What a guy. :)

I learned that I am, unashamedly, an 'epidural-girl'. This had been a point of confusion for me for many months. After a half-way failed attempt at an epidural last time with Carson, I was scared to do it again. But after 4 hours of painful contractions (boy did they start coming after my water was broken!) and discovering that I still hadn't progressed much, I decided I was too mentally exhausted to continue 'handling' it. It was 5:00 in the morning on the third night of little to no sleep, after all, and all I wanted was to relax. So, in came the anesthesiologist and, after a few minor complications, the medicine started flowing. "WHAT was I thinking!?!?!" I thought as I drifted into the land of painlessness. "I should have done this hours ago. This is so. much. better!" I even got 2 hours of sleep after that. :)

When Miles was born, they put him up on my all-the-sudden flabby tummy and I felt as if millions of tiny threads were shooting out of my heart and wrapping themselves around his...forming a bond that was almost tangible. I stroked his furrowed little eyebrow and stared into his open eyes - - - my son.

Brian scooted closer and rubbed my arm. I looked up at him and he beamed at me. "I can't believe how much he looks like Carson," he said as he looked back into Miles's face. "Here, why don't you hold him," I said. He stood up and gently gathered the little bundle into his arms... what is it about seeing him as a brand new daddy? So excited, so proud, so unreserved - those mental pictures are some of the most treasured that I have.

Minutes after Miles was born

The next day


He's so tiny - so beautiful - so perfect.

Five days? ... Really? ... How do I slow the time... ?


  1. Congratulations to you guys! He's beautiful...and you've taken wonderful pictures of him and the gang! Time does fly...MY baby is 16 1/'d that happen??? :)

  2. Congratulations again you guys! He is just so sweet! I am hear to tell you that really, natual labor is no fun! You couldn't pay me again to do that again. Things look like they are going well though. I hope he is a good sleeper for you! Keep the pictures of him coming. You take great ones!

  3. Oh, they grow up so fast, don't they? When Caleb was a week old, I looked at him and realized he was not the same baby as he was seven days before! I laugh at myself recalling when we took him down the street to the fabric shop, on a walk to get him some sun to help with his jaundice. "That's a brand new one," the lady at the counter said as she cut my fabric. "Oh, he's two weeks old," I 'corrected' as if that made him SO much older and not very brand new at all. 'So grown up' at two weeks old! And he's getting into EVERYTHING... ;)

  4. Awesome. I considered fibbing, myself. Who knew it would work? What a beautiful little boy! My Miles told me to give your Miles a newborn baby high-five. :)

  5. Thank you for the pictures. It is so hard being in Thailand ... knowing that we have a beautiful new baby that we can't hold.

    We love you and are counting the days until we can be with your family.....

  6. Don't you just love it when your husband convinces you to do something you really want to, but don't have the guts to do without that little push? He is such a sweet little guy. I'm glad that everything went well for you. What time was he born? I hope you are all doing well and enjoying this sweet time and hopefully getting some sleep.

  7. What a great story! He is so sweet. Now what hospital did you have him at because fibbing, even being in labor and at 4 couldn't get them to let me stay when I went in. :)

  8. Anonymous9:58 AM

    That feeling after your baby is born is the best. I always had to be started with all three labors with pitocin. I always had an epiderial with all three. With Parker, I had to have a second epideral. I never went into labor on my own. Congratulations again.

  9. What a sweet little guy:) I love it when they will just sleep on you and you get to enjoying everything about them. Enjoy it!

  10. Congratulations! He is perfect! Time flies when others are pregnant, why not for the one who is??? It seems like you just barely put up the picture of 28 weeks along and I was so jealous and now im there and you're done!

  11. I'm so happy for you! He is so adorable. Congratulations, and I'm glad to know that next time I can try to fib my way into labor :)